Connecticut courts are amenable to a variety of child custody arrangements in divorce. The guidepost in their decisions is on what best promotes involved children’s interests, and that is decidedly not the same in every case.
Courts across the country, including in Connecticut, have grown increasingly disinclined over the years to regard a “kids stay at home with mom” outcome is as the automatic go-to solution for deciding custody matters. Proven family law attorneys working closely with valued clients have presented courts with well-tailored and truly creative parenting plans that allow for varied parent/child arrangements.
Judges these days often encourage joint legal custody when parents agree and can work amicably to forge solutions regarding child-centric matters. Increasingly, too, many fathers currently command far more extensive and liberalized visitation rights than was customarily the case in prior years.
Further still, a kind of joint physical custody starkly at odds with the “mom and kids at home” approach now garners prime media attention periodically as the concept of “nesting” advances.
What that means is this: The kids stay put in the family home, with mom and dad rotating in and out, that is, taking separate turns at being alone with the children. When the mother runs the home, the father remains separate, in an apartment, new home or other abode. When dad walks in the door, the roles reverse. Nesting is akin to a revolving door for parents.
Of course, that won’t routinely work. Some divorced parents understandably won’t even consider such an arrangement (a recent media article on the subject cites “couples who are not on the same page”). Moreover, nesting obviously isn’t cheap, given the costs relevant to multiple residents.
For some couples, though, the idea is attractive, especially on a shorter-term basis.
The bottom line with custody/visitation and parenting plans is that loving and flexible parents who can still work civilly following a divorce can forge impressively creative outcomes that always keep their children centrally in mind.